Welcome to the Fuck It Blog

All written by F**k It founders and authors, John C. Parkin and Gaia Pollini.

The posts on our blog are often taken from the emails that John & Gaia send out regularly.
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John & Gaia x

Don’t IDEALISE others’ lives

Don’t IDEALISE others’ lives

I (John) am just back from a walk on the sandy beach (as above) near our home here in Fano on the east coast of Italy. Well, more a sea-stroll - walking knee-deep in the warm water, like many other relaxed and care-free sea-strollers do in the calm shallow water here....

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Hot hot hot (and how to cope)

Hot hot hot (and how to cope)

It's probably hot hot hot where you are. In the U.K. it could hit a record temperature today. Here in Italy, it's another hot one. It's easy to read advice about what to do in the heat. You probably know already - drink lots of water, stay out of direct sunlight (like...

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The Answer to EVERYTHING

The Answer to EVERYTHING

Gaia is very excited. She eats, breathes and sleeps her investigation into how we all tick.This is what she does. On retreats, in workshops, with her band of private 1-to-1 clients:(And with something you may not have heard of, because it only opens once a year, in...

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Your conversation with the world

Your conversation with the world

Hi Lovely You, I (John) was walking around town this morning (and 'town' is Fano on the east coast of Italy). And I became more-than-usual-aware of my thoughts about those I was passing, or came into contact with (in the cafe for example). I became aware of the...

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Bumping my car, great…

Bumping my car, great…

A couple of days ago, I (John) bumped my car. And it did me a lot of good. Here's what happened: On my way to the office, I pulled over next to the beach to eat my yoghurt breakfast. I'd normally go for a walk there, but that day there was just time to eat the yoghurt...

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Andy Murray Cries…

Andy Murray Cries…

Dear Family, Andy Murray is retiring because of his hip problems.This is MASSIVE news. Yes, because he's had an amazing tennis career and he's a hugely respected person. But also because of the manner in which he imparted his news, in a press conference that was...

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Being You, not a People Pleaser…

Being You, not a People Pleaser…

Dear Lovely You, As you know, we're open for Early Bird F**k It Retreats bookings - Early Bird 2019 Retreats Page And you've probably seen -Gaia is teaching her new 'F**k It Be You' retreats and events this year. This idea of Being Fully You - not what others want of...

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It’s Not About You….

It’s Not About You….

Hi Lovely You, Have you seen, people go a bit crazy at this time of the year. It's all this pre-Christmas rush. Everyone trying to get everything done for a few days of sitting around, overeating and arguing 🙂 Everyone is rushing and stressed and tetchy. And people...

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We Will Remember Us…

We Will Remember Us…

On Sunday (11th November) at 11am, I sat at our kitchen table with a candle in silence for a few minutes. I attempted to 'remember them'. And many images of life in the trenches, going over the top, young men gunned down, constant shell explosions, rushed through my...

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Relaxation for England Games

Relaxation for England Games

For those of you who go "What England game?" or "I'm German", just concentrate on the all-purpose relaxation tips we give. For the rest of you... deep breath... the England game kicks off in just a few hours' time. I could hardly sleep last night. And I'm hardly a...

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Do you have herpes?

Do you have herpes?

Last week we were in Paris, partly to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. We were in the queue for an audio guide at the Louvre, a place where the staff don't smile, where it's so busy that no one smiles and where everyone fights to see a small painting of a woman...

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New F**k It book is in the press…

New F**k It book is in the press…

John here. I'm doing lots of interviews at the moment for the launch of the new book (F**k It - Be At Peace with Life, Just as It Is) and the most common question is -  "But how can people be at peace with... (insert difficult life experience)?" The answer is two-fold...

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Postcard from a Deep Hill

Postcard from a Deep Hill

Gaia has just finished her F**k It Magic Restart retreat at The Hill. The Hill That Breathes is the retreat centre that we set up in 2004, and now run by the Marsis. I (John) went for dinner on the last evening (as I'd been in Brooklyn getting together with other Hay...

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A Strange Frickin’ Phenomenon…

A Strange Frickin’ Phenomenon…

In this second podcast about taking a F**k It Journey through life, we look at - A really strange frickin' phenomenon. It's what often happens to us all when we suddenly feel really good... or get into a nice groove somehow... Can you guess what we're talking about?...

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Make Life a F**k It Journey…

Make Life a F**k It Journey…

Imagine now how different your life would be if you approached everything with openness and curiosity, rather than caution and resistance, even the challenging things of life. Imagine turning the journey of life into a F**K IT JOURNEY - by relaxing more, sitting back...

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F**k It – Wish You Were Here…

F**k It – Wish You Were Here…

It's the first Sunday of the first retreat of the year - Gaia's 'F**k It Magic Abundance' at Urbino Resort. And, F**k It, we really do wish you were here with us. It's somewhat difficult to capture the specialness of the retreats and the venues... but here's a little...

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Fab Podcast from John & Gaia

Fab Podcast from John & Gaia

We (John & Gaia) have recorded a podcast, just for you.  JOHN & GAIA PODCAST 1 We think you’ll love this – our first podcast, coming in at 18 mins long. It’s a great introduction (or reminder) to ‘F**k It’. And we also go deep into the F**k It work too. In...

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This Woman Couldn’t Let Go

This Woman Couldn’t Let Go

We often talk about 'F**k It' in the context of letting go - and that usually means letting go of our attachment to something that's causing us pain. That might include an idea we have about something (eg. that we need to be successful at this or that)... or letting...

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Down Days

Down Days

We all feel a bit down occasionally. It's perfectly natural. And we're more prone to Down Days at this time of the year in particular (and that's even without the Trump inauguration-anniversary-related news.) We're about to give some great tips for shifting the down,...

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The Power of Lazy

The Power of Lazy

It’s a wonder this blog post is getting to you, you know. What, with the state that I’m in at the moment. It’s only really because the latest series of Broadchurch that I’ve just binge-watched in 24 hours came to an unexpectedly early end just now, that I’m even here....

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How To Waste Time

How To Waste Time

I, John, seem to spend half my time encouraging people to spend their precious time on this planet caring less what others think and doing more what the fuck they fancy. And the other half encouraging very motivated and successful people to relax a little and play...

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The Power of Talking

The Power of Talking

There was a piece on Radio 4's Today programme recently about the elderly and depression: that half the elderly (in the U.K.) say that they have suffered with depression and/or anxiety. People put the main causes as the loss of someone close to them, or financial...

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What Should I Do?

What Should I Do?

With the current 'F**k It, Do What You Love' eCourse now underway with a band of thirty Doing What They Lovers, I've been contemplating how we make our decisions about what to do next in our lives. After all, people on our Do What You Love courses often agree with...

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Bye Bye Louise Hay

Bye Bye Louise Hay

Louise Hay passed away a few days ago. Many of you will know of her amazing work. She's inspired millions of people around the world with her books (the first was 'Heal Your Body' published in 1976) and her healing, loving messages - primarily through the medium of...

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At peace with Monday

At peace with Monday

A theme has emerged in the last couple of retreats we've been teaching - an interesting way to look at acceptance. It involves the difference between being 'At Peace', and 'Peaceful'. And, even on this, a Monday, you may soon see that, even if you're not particularly...

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Happy Resurrection Day

Happy Resurrection Day

We wanted to share some thoughts around 'resurrection' and looked up 'Easter'... and alternative names for today are 'Pascha', which sounds like our Italian 'Pasqua' (as it has a Latin root) and 'Resurrection Sunday'. So, Happy Resurrection Sunday. And, for the many...

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The Top Way to Sort Stress

The Top Way to Sort Stress

In this series of blog posts, we've looked at the effects of our stress response on our health and our Top 3 Anti-Stress techniques. But to trump even those, this last post is about the TOP WAY to sort stress. So here’s a truism that may not surprise you – You tend...

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Top 3 Anti-Stress Techniques

Top 3 Anti-Stress Techniques

In the last blog post we looked at how harmful our stress response can be to us (very harmful!). So let's look at the Top 3 Anti-Stress Techniques. Straight in at Number 3... What are you stressing about? Make a list. Everyone’s list is different. Something that...

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The Top 3 Effects of Stress

The Top 3 Effects of Stress

As you shake off the stress of the week, here's a little reminder of the effects of stress and why it's worth trying to experience less in the first place. We’ve called this ‘the top 3 effects of stress’ as if it’s something you’d like, something that it would be...

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Prepare to Laugh your Socks Off

Prepare to Laugh your Socks Off

Oh my, if you haven't seen this clip already, you must... CRINGEY HILARIOUS BBC LIVE INTERVIEW CLIP I watched it several times yesterday, cringing and giggling. Then when Leone (one of our sons) woke up and told me to watch this video with these kids, blah blah, I...

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Are You Mentally Well?

Are You Mentally Well?

Mental health is talked about a lot more than it used to be. Celebrities will now talk about depression and mental health issues in a way that they wouldn't have before. Who is in that photo? This boy became a famous and much-loved man who's been very open about his...

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