Welcome to the Fuck It Blog

All written by F**k It founders and authors, John C. Parkin and Gaia Pollini.

The posts on our blog are often taken from the emails that John & Gaia send out regularly.
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John & Gaia x

Hope & Gloomy

Hope & Gloomy

Anyone out there feeling somewhat gloomy at the moment?Yeah, of course you are.There are 100 possible reasons for that. Anyone out there feeling hopeful at the moment?Yeah, of course you are.There are 100 possible reasons for that. Yes, supremely weird frickin' times....

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Relaxation 101

Relaxation 101

We wrote to our subscribers recently with an invitation to 'Sit with Difficulty' (and you can read our blog on this HERE). It's hard. But there's plenty of difficulty around at the moment to practise on. Just in these last few days, we've had the nail-biting U.S....

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Sitting With Difficulty

Sitting With Difficulty

As we (John & Gaia) sit down to write this - It's Sunday tea-time. With the dark closing in, one hour earlier than yesterday. Monday tomorrow. Winter coming. Lockdown news getting heavier every day. We all face different levels of difficulty. We all face...

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Down to business…

Down to business…

Hi Lovely You, If you've been following us and F**k It for a while, you won't have heard much about this side of what I (John) do - Helping people in businesses with F**k It infused advice. Sure, you've heard me talking about 'F**k It, Do What You Love' plenty of...

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Oh Dear…

Oh Dear…

Hi Friends, So we're seeing this insidious threat and its devastating effects on the world, particularly in the U.S.A., creating fear and horror as its toxic effects spread through society. And then there's the coronavirus. Yes, Trump's true colours are revealed yet...

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The Strain of Lockdown

The Strain of Lockdown

Lockdown. How are you doing? These are strange times. Thoughts that we wanted to share with you a few days ago seem barely relevant now.The thought and ideas we wanted to share a couple of months ago seem like they’re from different people on a different planet. We...

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Soothing Words for Tough Times

Soothing Words for Tough Times

Hi Friends,  John & Gaia here, your F**k It guides through good times and scary times. We recently asked those of you on our mailing list -  "What's your Rice Pudding for the Soul?" In other words -what words would soothe you through these difficult times? And we...

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My Plastic Brain…

My Plastic Brain…

Hello friends, The coronavirus crisis is reminding me (John) that my brain is plastic. Not in the sense of it being plastic like recyclable bottles, though I suppose my brain will recycle into something when I'm gone. But in the sense of the plasticity, the...

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Be Kind…

Be Kind…

Whoah! We sent out last 'Don't Panic!' message out at the weekend. It feels like a month ago. Do you remember those days, back at the weekend, when you had all those different thoughts, and all those different feelings, oh, those were the days! Things are moving fast....

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Don’t Panic…

Don’t Panic…

Hi Friends, John & Gaia here, your F**k It guides through good times and scary times. We got a big response to the message we sent out last weekend offering some lighter words and reassurance around the coronavirus -mainly from people feeling more relaxed and...

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Corona-ssurance

Corona-ssurance

Hi Friends, John & Gaia here, your F**k It guides through good times and bad. And here we all are facing the coronavirus thing. So this post will move from some levity on the subject, to a serious point and then onto a list of points that should reassure us all....

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Breaking Spells

Breaking Spells

It's a week since Gaia was leading her long-weekend -Breaking the Psychological Spell -in Brighton. And it turns out this title is perfect for the work that Gaia does. I'll give you a little hint of the weekend, so you can see how. Twenty of us gathered in the cosy...

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What a relief…

What a relief…

'What a relief' -Isn't that a lovely expression -And a lovely sensation? I felt it this last week when World War III didn't kick off. But we feel it often and in many ways - What a relief when - We get indoors on a cold and wet day We didn't put on any weight despite...

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The Best Resolution EVER

The Best Resolution EVER

So here's a resolution to undercut the rest of them - "F**k It, I'll be me." Put aside what the world wants of you - To step into the 'New You', to be thinner, fitter, eat more healthily, drink less, be kinder, to earn more, give more, take more, to work harder, to up...

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Happy New Year?

Happy New Year?

Phew. It's quite an opening to this year / decade isn't it? At the end of last year, many of us looked back at 2019, and, together, we looked at how we'd changed. You can read what we all wrote (including me, Gaia and the boys) on this page - F**K IT, I'VE CHANGED And...

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Gaia’s Secret 1-to-1

We've been talking recently about the fact that - Gaia has a Secret Life. We shared an audio snippet (in the last post) from one of the F**k It Be You 'Deep Workshops' that she creates as part of her private membership group (so usually secret). This time, we'd like...

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Gaia’s Secret Group

We recently mentioned that - Gaia has a Secret Life. We mentioned that part of her secret life is that she leads a private and closed online membership group.Yes, Gaia's Secret Group.It's called the 'F**k It Be You System'.And it includes a monthly 'Deep Workshop'...

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How to Argue

How to Argue

Gaia and I have been married 21 years. We realised recently that we've become really good at arguing. 🙂 And we're going to share some of these hard-won tips to arguing well. What are you on about, you say, surely the sign of a good relationship is that there are no...

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Don’t IDEALISE others’ lives

Don’t IDEALISE others’ lives

I (John) am just back from a walk on the sandy beach (as above) near our home here in Fano on the east coast of Italy. Well, more a sea-stroll - walking knee-deep in the warm water, like many other relaxed and care-free sea-strollers do in the calm shallow water here....

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Hot hot hot (and how to cope)

Hot hot hot (and how to cope)

It's probably hot hot hot where you are. In the U.K. it could hit a record temperature today. Here in Italy, it's another hot one. It's easy to read advice about what to do in the heat. You probably know already - drink lots of water, stay out of direct sunlight (like...

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The Answer to EVERYTHING

The Answer to EVERYTHING

Gaia is very excited. She eats, breathes and sleeps her investigation into how we all tick.This is what she does. On retreats, in workshops, with her band of private 1-to-1 clients:(And with something you may not have heard of, because it only opens once a year, in...

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Your conversation with the world

Your conversation with the world

Hi Lovely You, I (John) was walking around town this morning (and 'town' is Fano on the east coast of Italy). And I became more-than-usual-aware of my thoughts about those I was passing, or came into contact with (in the cafe for example). I became aware of the...

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Bumping my car, great…

Bumping my car, great…

A couple of days ago, I (John) bumped my car. And it did me a lot of good. Here's what happened: On my way to the office, I pulled over next to the beach to eat my yoghurt breakfast. I'd normally go for a walk there, but that day there was just time to eat the yoghurt...

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Andy Murray Cries…

Andy Murray Cries…

Dear Family, Andy Murray is retiring because of his hip problems.This is MASSIVE news. Yes, because he's had an amazing tennis career and he's a hugely respected person. But also because of the manner in which he imparted his news, in a press conference that was...

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Being You, not a People Pleaser…

Being You, not a People Pleaser…

Dear Lovely You, As you know, we're open for Early Bird F**k It Retreats bookings - Early Bird 2019 Retreats Page And you've probably seen -Gaia is teaching her new 'F**k It Be You' retreats and events this year. This idea of Being Fully You - not what others want of...

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It’s Not About You….

It’s Not About You….

Hi Lovely You, Have you seen, people go a bit crazy at this time of the year. It's all this pre-Christmas rush. Everyone trying to get everything done for a few days of sitting around, overeating and arguing 🙂 Everyone is rushing and stressed and tetchy. And people...

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We Will Remember Us…

We Will Remember Us…

On Sunday (11th November) at 11am, I sat at our kitchen table with a candle in silence for a few minutes. I attempted to 'remember them'. And many images of life in the trenches, going over the top, young men gunned down, constant shell explosions, rushed through my...

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Relaxation for England Games

Relaxation for England Games

For those of you who go "What England game?" or "I'm German", just concentrate on the all-purpose relaxation tips we give. For the rest of you... deep breath... the England game kicks off in just a few hours' time. I could hardly sleep last night. And I'm hardly a...

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Do you have herpes?

Do you have herpes?

Last week we were in Paris, partly to celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. We were in the queue for an audio guide at the Louvre, a place where the staff don't smile, where it's so busy that no one smiles and where everyone fights to see a small painting of a woman...

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New F**k It book is in the press…

New F**k It book is in the press…

John here. I'm doing lots of interviews at the moment for the launch of the new book (F**k It - Be At Peace with Life, Just as It Is) and the most common question is -  "But how can people be at peace with... (insert difficult life experience)?" The answer is two-fold...

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Postcard from a Deep Hill

Postcard from a Deep Hill

Gaia has just finished her F**k It Magic Restart retreat at The Hill. The Hill That Breathes is the retreat centre that we set up in 2004, and now run by the Marsis. I (John) went for dinner on the last evening (as I'd been in Brooklyn getting together with other Hay...

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A Strange Frickin’ Phenomenon…

A Strange Frickin’ Phenomenon…

In this second podcast about taking a F**k It Journey through life, we look at - A really strange frickin' phenomenon. It's what often happens to us all when we suddenly feel really good... or get into a nice groove somehow... Can you guess what we're talking about?...

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Make Life a F**k It Journey…

Make Life a F**k It Journey…

Imagine now how different your life would be if you approached everything with openness and curiosity, rather than caution and resistance, even the challenging things of life. Imagine turning the journey of life into a F**K IT JOURNEY - by relaxing more, sitting back...

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F**k It – Wish You Were Here…

F**k It – Wish You Were Here…

It's the first Sunday of the first retreat of the year - Gaia's 'F**k It Magic Abundance' at Urbino Resort. And, F**k It, we really do wish you were here with us. It's somewhat difficult to capture the specialness of the retreats and the venues... but here's a little...

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