being me mastery3-YEAR TRAINING WITH GAIA POLLINI (CURRENT TRAINING STARTED SEPT 2021 / NEXT TRAINING STARTS 2023)
3-YEAR TRAINING WITH GAIA
IN ‘BEING ME THERAPY’
TO MASTER ‘BEING ME’
AND TO STEP INTO
USING THE SYSTEM
Gaia Pollini has been helping people heal and transform for 20 years, including in her co-founder role in the ‘F**k It’ movement, and co-authoring of the F**k it books.
She has vast experience as a therapist, both in her extensive training (including in trauma and developmental trauma work) and in practices she has created herself over the years.
Her aim over the last 10 years has been to develop a therapy that brings all the best of her particular approach, her experience, her insights and her practices together into one powerful and accessible form:
This is ‘Being Me Therapy’.
And alongside this, her aim been to create a training that allows people to fully learn and experience the system so that they can grow hugely and to the point where they can then use the ‘Being Me Therapy’ system with others.
This is ‘Being Me Mastery’.
And the next intake for this 3-year training is 2023.
THE THERAPEUTIC INTERSECTION
OF SCIENCE & MAGIC
GAIA: “My work brings together cutting edge psychology, with the new science of the nervous system and the ‘magic’ of energy work and intuitive and spiritual work.”
“Your eyes start to sparkle…”
“People have commented on what happens to my face when I talk about the Being Me Mastery training: ‘Your eyes start to sparkle’... ‘Your face lights up’.” Trainee T.D.
THE 6-STEP PATH to BEING ME MASTERY
Reading through these steps, you’ll probably notice that there is an element to it that is plainly chronological: maybe you’ll only be thinking about ‘selling the work’ in your third year, as you anticipate how you’ll take the work out into the world.
But there’s also a circularity to some of these steps too. It’s likely that you’ll go through the first 4 steps again and again: learning the modular parts of the training, and then processing that internally, then playing with the work, and then ‘being the work’, repeatedly throughout the 3 years.
Where I am:
I want to work therapeutically with people (for a living) or continue to work therapeutically with people,
but I feel I’ve still got some work to do being more me and I want a system to use that really resonates with me.
Where I’d like to be:
I’ve done the work (of mastering Being Me) and I’m ready to share this great ‘Being Me Therapy’ system with others, in my own unique way.
“Training with Gaia enriched my work with clients…”
“Training with Gaia enriched my work with clients to an enormous extent. The way Gaia works in one–to–ones as well as in groups is both highly professional and deeply intuitive. Her system shows people the way back to their healthy self and to the divine too. ” Trainee F.W.
THE WORK – THE ‘BEING ME THERAPY’ BUTTERFLY MODEL
The work of ‘Being Me Therapy’ is to move people through the elements of Gaia’s ‘Being Me Butterfly Model’.
This is the foundational process of the whole training, the whole of ‘Being Me Therapy’.
Looking at the diagram below, the movement is from left to right of the butterfly: a repeated diving down from any given ‘difficulty’ in someone’s life to the ‘divine part’ and then out until that is embodied and lived as a ‘new behaviour’ and a life more happily led.
The ‘God Me’ level is then the higher awareness that all elements of the process and person are divine. In old spiritual terms this would be ‘enlightenment’. In modern terms, this would be a life led through profound and radical self-acceptance.
“Using the Butterfly Model…“
“Using the Butterfly Model, I witness my clients meet their vulnerability without judgment, as a divine part, and become unstuck. .” Trainee W.S.
THE ELEMENTS –
These are the core elements of the Being Me Mastery training –
2 x RESIDENTIALS PER YEAR
The training group gathers in person twice a year, for every year of the training:
On the current training, that has meant once at The Hill in Italy (for a week), and at other venues in Italy, and once at either a venue in the UK or in Italy (for 5 days).
This allows you to work in person, and to get to know the others in the group deeply . Also, you’ll see and learn how Gaia uniquely utilises nature in the therapeutic work.
2 x ONLINE WEEKENDS PER YEAR
Gaia has been working and training online for years. You’ll be surprised at how powerful it can be to explore the work online from the comfort of your own home. And you’ll also learn how to work therapeutically online with others because of this.
BEING ME UNI THROUGHOUT TRAINING
You’ll have full access to Gaia’s ‘Being Me University’ as part of your training. This offers deep teaching, and a monthly point of live contact with University participants that allows you to witness and practise the work in a larger group setting. It is thus a core part of the training.
1-TO-1 EXCHANGES + GROUP DEBRIEFS
A key part of your training is to work with the other trainees, exchanging Skype 1-to-1 sessions.
This gives you a great chance to practise in a safe setting what you’re learning from Gaia:
developing your 1-to-1 skills, and then sharing the experience in regular online evening debriefs with Gaia throughout the year.
PLUS (in your third year) –
You will receive help from John in the business side of moving into using this work in the world.
John will take you right the way through how to set up a great, life-enhancing, living-providing business.
“Gaia shows us how to gently guide people…“
“Gaia shows us how to gently guide people to feel, to process and to embrace all the divine parts. She has also given us the tools, questions and steps to help other people on their journey, just as she guides us on ours.” Trainee T.K.
THE THERAPISTS’ THERAPIST
Gaia Pollini is the co-creator of ‘F**k It’ and co-author of the bestselling F**k It books.
Gaia is a psycho-bodily therapist with more than 20 years of experience supporting people 1-to-1, on retreats and in groups, around the world. Her training spans Somatic Experiencing (nervous system regulation and trauma healing), NARM (related to developmental trauma), energy work, breathwork, Hypnotherapy and Part Therapy.
As well as the evidence-based therapeutic work that Gaia uses, she supports the magic that occurs when people reconnect to their true and full selves (‘Being Me Therapy’). And it is this dance of science-based therapy with energetic ‘magic’ work – all on the dancefloor of the revolutionary idea that problems can be solved by being more ourselves – that both sets Gaia’s therapeutic approach apart from others’ and makes it so fulfilling and effective.
“Gaia’s magical blend…”
“Gaia’s magical blend of understanding, compassion, knowledge, insight and intuition has helped to transform my relationship with myself and my work with my clients.” Trainee N.G.
“THE SAFEST AND MOST RESPECTFUL OF SPACES…”
“Gaia’s training is a space where ALL my feelings and thoughts are encouraged, expressed and explored. The safest and most respectful of spaces. ” Trainee B.R.
THIS IS THE SYLLABUS FOR THE CURRENT TRAINING…
MODULE 1 IS A RESIDENTIAL WEEK AT ‘THE HILL’ IN ITALY
MODULE 2 IS AN ONLINE WEEKEND
MODULE 3 IS A 5-DAY RESIDENTIAL IN THE UK OR IN ITALY
MODULE 4 IS THE SECOND ONLINE WEEKEND
EXPLORING THE REVOLUTIONARY MODEL
OF THE ‘BEING ME THERAPY’ BUTTERFLY
A foundational principle of ‘Being Me Therapy’ is the revolutionary idea that simply being more ourselves can resolve many problems.
The Butterfly Model takes this further: that it’s by directly confronting the struggles arising from our adapted selves that we uncover not just ‘me’, but a true and sacred me that then connects us to the whole.
The Butterfly Model is the revelation of a revolutionary idea – that we can access our divine selves, and the divine, through our struggles.
And it is complete: in that it comprises the steps to such revelations and it points at the completeness of our own existence (that the struggle is both a doorway to the divine self and a part of the divine).
PLAYING WITH THE KEY: HOW TO FEEL YOUR FEELINGS FROM THE SAFETY OF THE NOW AND HELP OTHERS TO DO THE SAME
A key element in moving through the Butterfly Model, to access the fear and the old pain, without getting lost within them, is to develop the ability to access feelings ‘from the safety of the now’.
In the dynamics of developmental trauma, the unresolved past experience is carried forward into the present. Body feelings, emotions and beliefs resulted from the ‘young’ experience getting stuck in our system and then being carried forward into adulthood.
In this module you will learn how, when we are able to uncover and witness the past feelings from the safety of the now, the past gets left in the past and we start living in the present.
And you will learn how to support clients in experiencing this.
IDENTIFYING THE FEAR UNDERNEATH AND UNCOVERING THE ORIGINAL PAIN (STARTING TO WORK WITH TRAUMA)
Being Me Therapy works with unconscious avoidance.
This question will often guide the process: “What am I avoiding here that is divine?”
Through exploring the mechanisms of attachment, in this module you will discover how ‘The Fear Underneath’ and ‘The Original Pain’ are responsible for such involuntary avoidance.
You’ll discover that we learnt to avoid our divine parts because they were denied in childhood. And how pain, fear and shame are actually associated with these divine parts that we’d actually like to bring back into our lives now.
So you will learn to look out for and identify the fears, pain and shame hidden beneath, and work with them in the open. This is a core part of working with the Butterfly Model.
You will learn to ask yourself and sense “what is going on beneath?” and to facilitate bringing all that back into the light despite the avoidance.
SPOTTING THE ‘PERSONAL LIE’
The personal lies are strong conclusions or self-judgments we carry with us from childhood.
Examples would be: ‘I am unwanted’, ‘I am not good enough, ‘I am not lovable’… or ‘I have to fight to get anywhere’, ‘people like me only if I am perfect’.
In this module you will learn about the principles of ‘identification’ and ‘disidentification’ within the personal lie.
Although these personal lies are so painful, you will see that the personal lies and self-judgments are protection mechanisms.
In childhood they protected us from the pain of being let down by our parents.
For example, it is less painful for a child to conclude ‘I am unloveable’ than to feel the pain of having an unloving parent.
Spotting these lies helps us uncover the pain, and discover the Divine Self that was denied in childhood.
In this case how totally lovable we are.
“I now trust myself to guide others…”
“Since I haven’t been training as a therapist before this course, I’m happy to say that I now trust myself to guide others in this divine journey. Thanks to Gaia and the Being Me Mastery training, I now feel confident and open. “ Trainee S.A.
IDENTIFYING SOMEONE’S ADAPTIVE MECHANISMS
‘Being Me Therapy’ allows us to see with clarity the ways in which we are not being true to ourselves. These untruths show up most overtly in our ‘adaptive behaviours’.
These are the behaviours that are not authentically ours, but have been learnt in childhood in order to adapt to our families’ requirements.
The different behavioural styles change depending on type of parenting and on the developmental age and at which we were not properly met.
You will learn the 5 adaptive mechanisms (based on developmental trauma work) and their the corresponding behaviours.
You will learn how to recognise them, and how spotting such mechanisms can help you and your client see what is inauthentic, and which are the authentic feelings and behaviour they are unconsciously avoiding.
EXPLORING THE NEW FRONTIER: PSYCHOLOGY AS ENERGY
A great skill that Gaia wants to share in this training is experiencing the psycho-physiological (psychology and nervous system ) work through energy.
You will be trained in this throughout the 3 years, but this module is specifically dedicated to deepening this aspect.
The psychological structures and mechanisms of self-pressures, the internalised voices, the avoidance mechanisms (and all the other elements of the Butterfly Model) can be experienced at an energetic level.
The different protective parts, as well as the divine parts, have an energetic presence.
When you open to this, and in sitting with a client in trust and connection, sensing the different energetic qualities provides deep information that can be used in the process and can guide therapist and client to profound truths.
The work with the different energies is also fundamental in the way Gaia works with groups.
THE THREAD THAT JOINS PSYCHOLOGY, PHYSIOLOGY AND ENERGY:
THE ‘POWER UNDERNEATH’
As we reconnect to the Divine Parts – the truer parts of us – our power comes back.
The power that was previously shut down returns to our bodies. And the compressed energy expands.
The physical body and energetic body are deeply connected with the psychological structure. So shifts in self–perception (psychological structure) greatly affect body and energy and vice-versa:
the realisations about our true and positive identity allow shifts in the nervous system and energetic system, and vice versa.
In order to support this process, it is necessary to understand how the nervous system works and how to work with it. Gaia will mix the principles of Somatic Experiencing, of Polyvagal Theory and of Developmental Trauma to illustrate how to facilitate the return of the ‘power underneath’.
In this module we will explore in depth how to reconnect to anger and healthy aggression, and how this affects shifting out of powerlessness and into agency.
THE TREASURE HUNT OF BODY-WORK
The Butterfly Model is a voyage of discovery.
Mostly the parts we are working with are hidden or unconscious. Memories are buried beneath mechanisms in the psyche and the body.
So it is important to have many ways to sense and tune into what is happening beneath the surface.
Working with body and energy information here makes a huge difference.
Body and energy information can help us and the client to get in touch with what is really happening beneath the surface.
We will learn how to sense the body, how and when to ask questions about body sensations.
How to use ‘body resonance’. How to enquire though body movements and ‘shapes’ of body sensations. How body and facial expressions can lead the client to uncover hidden emotions.
“(…Gaia)… revealed a whole new world of how to work with my clients…”
“I am a medical doctor and applied kinesiologist working a lot with trauma. My years with Gaia, first as a client, then as a trainee revealed a whole new world of how to work with my clients.” Trainee F.W.
THE DOORWAY OF THE DIVINE PART:
HOW THE HOMECOMING TO THE DIVINE PART CONNECTS US TO THE DIVINE
As fears, lies and protections peel off in the journey of Being Me Therapy, the divine parts emerge over and over again.
And then we accept it is safe to be out there in the world as ME with all MY feelings.
When this happens, people then often describe a feeling of ‘homecoming’, or ‘the simplest and most natural place to be’ or a ‘landing right back in my body and myself’.
Experiencing this deep sense of ‘rightness’ in the moment, puts us in touch with a sense of ‘rightness of being’.
It becomes an experience of just being… here, now.
As we are, and as we are meant to be.
And as many masters describe, this ‘just being’ experience is a divine state.
A state of expansion beyond the restrictions of mind, body, time.
By becoming fully ourselves we go beyond ourselves…
INTUITION, TRUST AND MAGIC IN SERIOUS THERAPY
When we learn to trust ourselves by going beyond our own adaptive mechanisms (as we do in the butterfly journey); when go beyond our mechanisms of control, of seeking results or needing to rescue others, our work as practitioners takes a completely different quality.
We start working from a deeper presence and clarity.
We become able to truly listen to what is happening below the surface, and we start listening to a deeper language. We start intuiting and sensing. There will likely be a sense of ‘not trying’, and from that a session can be transformed by a few words we say that just come from a seeing or a sensing something, simply because we’re working from a connection with our core and our presence.
We are not lost in our own disconnections or projections.
The outcome of this is magical. From our core we invite and trust the core of our clients.
We are basically working with and inviting essence.
And work with essence has a magical and spiritual energetic field.
You will experience this in the work. The experiences of expansion, the intuitions, the depth of the experiences, will feel like magic and the ‘unplannable’ is an integral part of this process.
THE THERAPY OF LOVING YOUR SHADOW AND VULNERABILITY
In this module you will explore how certain survival mechanisms can be responsible for aspects of your character which you profoundly dislike or judge, or that are really not helpful:
the shadow parts of you.
When we realise that these shadows are actually the outcome of having had to survive (often alone) as a child, and that they are very young parts of us (which are often connected with deep shame), we become a lot softer on ourselves and we stop trying to get rid of them.
Most of you will know the phrase (from Jung) ‘what we resist persists’. When we are able to see them as young survival parts, and we understand and feel what they were trying to do for us, the shame diminishes, and we actually become freer to experience other versions of ourselves.
By accepting and feeling compassion for our shadows, we actually become freer and more flexible in our behaviours.
You will also discover the profound difference between powerlessness (often experienced by the child self) and vulnerability (which can be experienced by the mature adult self): where vulnerability is a state of acceptance of our human imperfection, and is thus far from powerless.
THE GOD ME & THE HEALING PARADOX:
HOW INTERGRATING AND ACCEPTING ALL (HUMAN) PARTS MAKES US FULLY DIVINE
The God Me is a deep sense of self, which can hold, allow and include all the different parts, feelings and experiences that we have and have ever had.
The God Me appears in the Butterfly model as the container of all the elements and stages on the two wings of the butterfly beneath.
This is because, when we get in touch with this place within us, we become intimate with and accepting of all the different aspects of who we are and of our story. The shadow (on the left wing of the butterfly) and the light (on the right wing).
Both sides of the butterfly become okay. In the God Me, the apparent opposites become deeply connected. And it is the most humble of gods. This place in us completely accepts our humanity.
In this deep acceptance, we become so intimate with all that we are, that right and wrong disappear. Self-judgment disappears. A complete state of being, here, in the moment, with what is here, appears.
“I REALLY DON’T WANT THIS TRAINING TO END…”
“The last time I felt this alive, safe, passionate, confident, excited, inspired, was when I was raising my young family and I distinctly remember feeling I didn’t want it to end. I really don’t want this training to end. I’ve never been so eager to learn. Gaia what an inspiration you are, in so many ways.” Trainee S.M.
HOW DOES IT WORK TO BECOME A BEING ME MASTER?
For the moment, please just write to the team email as below.
Usually… Just click one of the ‘I’d like to apply’ buttons below, and then fill in the form.
You’ll be asked to fill in your details, and any personal therapeutic work you’ve done or any training you have in this field, and why you’d like to join.
2/ TALK TO GAIA
Once you’ve applied, a member of the team will be in touch with you to set up a time to have a half-hour chat with Gaia about the possibility of your joining the training.
3/ JOIN IN SEPT 2021
If the training is right for you and you’re right for the training, you’ll register and then start in the next intake. Hurrah!
“to discover what divine parts I’m avoiding…“
“Gaia teaches me in a gentle way to look at myself, to accept anything that comes and to discover what divine parts I’m avoiding. And she shows how I can create space for other people to go on the same journey.” Trainee M.V.
WHAT’S THE PACKAGE (& THE PRICE)?
This is a Comprehensive Multi-faceted Training in
‘Being Me Therapy’
You’ve seen what the elements of the training are.
And what the full syllabus is.
This is what your training package includes, in full:
2 x Training residentials per year
Your full training and venue rental costs are included. Accommodation (full board) is extra but at a special group price and usually at around £90-110 per night, depending on room choice.
2 x Online weekend trainings per year
Membership of ‘Being Me University’
Organized Practice ‘Pods’ for regular work between students
Regular 1-to-1 training, support and debrief sessions
Business support from John in Year 3
Special trainee rate of £100 on 1-to-1s with Gaia
How much is the training?
When you apply and then speak to Gaia about the training,
she’ll take you through the pricing and payment options.
Your 1-to-1 Journey with Gaia (throughout your training)
Your personal therapeutic journey, and growth, during the training is essential to your development as a ‘Being Me Master’.
Alongside your training, you will be having 1-to-1 sessions with Gaia (at the special rate).
How many you have will depend on your experience and previous training. A minimum of 6 sessions a year are required and, for those who have less experience (and / or training), we ask that you do 10 sessions in the first year.
Your special trainee rate for your sessions with Gaia is £90 (Gaia offers one-off sessions to clients at £150, and currently charges £120 a session for those who are signing up for regular sessions).
INCLUDED IN YOUR TRAINING PACKAGE…
BEING ME UNIVERSITY
(MONTHLY MEMBERSHIP PROGRAMME)
Gaia has been running her Being Me University for 2 years now.
People from all over the world are thus receiving a deep and ongoing training in being more themselves and seeing the power of that in their daily lives.
They love the combination of deep training, experience and community.
This is what it includes:
Monthly ‘Being Me Deeply’ workshop recording
Monthly live get-together with teaching, breakout groups and community
Ongong exchange on the private Facebook group
Access to core Being Me Training, including the full Adaptive Mechanism series (worth £247 in itself)
“Gaia, I truly believe in the magnificent work that you do. ” Trainee, E.M.
DATES FOR 2021 & 2022
20-27 SEPT 2021 / RESIDENTIAL WEEK @ THE HILL, ITALY
4-5 DEC 2021 / ONLINE WEEKEND
7 FEB 2022 / 1-TO-1 GROUP DEBRIEF EVENING
(tbc) 30 MAR – 3 APR 2022 / RESIDENTIAL 5-DAY @ WEST LEXHAM, UK
28-29 MAY 2022 / ONLINE WEEKEND
13 JUNE 2022 / 1-TO-1 GROUP DEBRIEF EVENING
27 SEPT – 4 OCT 2022 / RESIDENTIAL WEEK @ THE HILL, ITALY
3-4 DEC 2022 / ONLINE WEEKEND
ONCE A MONTH, EVENING WORKSHOP / BEING ME UNIVERSITY
“I’m very happy to have become a Being Me trainee…“
“I discovered Gaia’s work eight years ago. I was depressed and unable to feel anything without feeling completely overwhelmed. That first retreat changed my life and now, years and retreats later I’m very happy to have become a Being Me trainee. ” Trainee G.K.
“What I am learning in this training is really showing up in my coaching practice…”
“What I am learning in this training is really showing up in my coaching practice with my clients. The work has given me new ways to hold my clients as they explore deeply within themselves. ” Trainee N.G.
“Thank you Gaia…”
“I’ve discovered on this training that my truth is Divine, so I want access to it. I believe we all should have the choice to access it. And now I am going to support other people in doing so. Thank you Gaia. ” Trainee S.D.