F**K IT
BE YOU

FEAR TO LOVE

“DID WE ALL LEAVE FEELING FABULOUS? YES, ABSOLUTELY.” LONDON EVENING STANDARD

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(Everything you need on one page)

SUMMARY OF RETREAT / WHY YOU’LL LOVE IT / ABOUT GAIA / ABOUT THIS RETREAT / ABOUT PRICES & BOOKING / ABOUT THE HILL THAT BREATHES

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F**K IT BE YOU ‘FEAR TO LOVE’ RETREAT
OCTOBER 6-13 / €1390-€1690
THE HILL THAT BREATHES

 

In a nutshell:

Fear is the awareness that things aren’t safe.  And in situations where they’re not, it is helpful.

The problem is that we misapply this perception that things aren’t safe to countless situations that are perfectly safe.  It is a pattern from long ago, therefore, that holds us back, keeps us stuck and stops us being truly ourselves.

In this retreat, in the safety of the embracing energy of The Hill That Breathes, Gaia will guide you to discover that these fears are not relevant any longer, so they can give space to trust, confidence and, yes, LOVE. 

Because the opposite of fear is love.  When the fear subsides, the love rises.

And, sitting in the paradise of The Hill, amongst other beautiful souls, you’re going to adore it watching the changing of the tides, as the love rises.

And you find yourself again (behind the fears).

Prices are all-inclusive (full-board)

“I was, and continue to be, astounded at how strong I could be, just being me. Thank you Gaia.” M.T., ZURICH

Why you’ll love this retreat – 

LIBERATING TEACHING from GAIA

You’ll feel better. 
And you’ll learn how to feel well and free every day –
Long after the holiday effect has faded.

SUPER-RELAXING HOLIDAY

Nestled in the rolling hills near Urbino (birthplace of Raphael),
The Hill That Breathes is a 100 acre wooded hill with two converted farmhouses and panoramic pool. Yum.

GOOD COMPANY

People don’t expect this,
but you’ll feel safe and supported amongst new friends, 
who are likely to one day be old friends.

ABOUT MAGIC GAIA

Gaia is F**k It personified.
Just hanging out with Gaia takes you to a different place. Having created the whole F**k It thing (with John) 14 years ago,
Gaia IS F**k It.

And you can’t help but get it when you’re with her.
We use the word ‘magic’ around Gaia too because that’s how people describe her and her work. (And Gaia has A LOT of people following her from one place to another, doing one retreat after another).

Gaia is a therapist with huge experience - having deep training in developmental trauma work (NARM), Somatic Experiencing, energy work, breathwork, voice dialogue and hypnotherapy.  In her magic way, she creates space for true feelings, full life-force and personal truth. She brings to this process her work with trauma, with relational attachment and with energy, so that you have the chance to permanently shift self-limiting perceptions and beliefs and relax into a true sense of okayness.

  • Gaia’s magical ability to impart our true sense of okayness 100% 100%

“Gaia is a goddess: the most incredible person I’ve ever met.” O.H., LONDON

ABOUT THIS F**K IT BE YOU ‘FEAR TO LOVE’ RETREAT


 

F**k It Be You.
F**k It Be You.
Not the people pleaser, the one who says ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’.
F**k It Be You. Not hiding your light and life-force, the one who says ‘no’ when you mean ‘yes’.
F**k It Be You. You as you are, not as you think you should be.
F**k It Be You. Doing what feels right, not what you think you should do.
F**k It Be You. Not always putting yourself last, not giving help when you need it yourself.
F**k It Be You. Listening to yourself and your feelings, not others and their opinions.
F**k It Be You. Including the vulnerable, tender and fragile you.
F**k It Be You. And don’t make any excuses for being you.

F**k It Be You.  

Gaia's 'F**k It Be You' work helps you return to the true, clear and fully-alive you.
It is based on her long therapeutic experience and training in practices such as 'NARM' and Somatic Experiencing which relate to Developmental Trauma and our unconscious repetitive patterns.

We all feel fear.  Fear is natural.  Fear can be helpful (it’s our warning signal that something is dangerous or inadvisable for us).

But for many people, this fear response is over-activated, or inappropriately activated (ie. for things that aren’t actually dangerous or inadvisable) and, consequently, this fear becomes crippling. 

And the strange thing is that, for many of us, this fear response is entirely covered up.
Only barely aware of the fear, we become super-capable and super-busy perfectionists,
and we have to then keep the whole show on the road, never feeling our own vulnerabilities, and not able to trust that life will work out in its own way.

So there is a difference between natural, helpful (sometimes life-saving) fear… and fear and lack of trust that blocks us and restricts our lives.

This retreat, then, is about rebuilding trust, confidence and love,
thus releasing some of the (unhelpful) fears that have been holding you back.

Gaia will create, with the group, the perfect space of openness, safety and trust
where you’ll be able to explore your fears and reconnect to a sense of okayness and self-approval.
This will allow some of the shadows to surface and be met; for them to be accepted and thus lose their grip on you.
And this frees up a lot of energy to trust life…

“This was a perfect week with perfect people and perfect Gaia.
It was a life-changing experience.” 
E.M., BERLIN

…So, on this retreat, under Gaia’s loving and skilful guidance – 

  • You’ll look at how these fears came into your life and how they are repeated in your present life
  • You’ll reconnect to the healthy aggression that you had to suppress so that you once more feel your right to be you
  • You’ll learn how to recognise what’s not okay for you and to say so
  • You’ll explore, through difference exercises, what can be there when the fear subsides
  • You’ll participate in Gaia’s special ‘Fear to Love Process’ where you’ll discover the Hidden Source beneath your fear 
  • You’ll feel how much strength there is in your own vulnerability and how rich it is to show yourself to others just as you are (F**k It Be You)

 

The opposite of fear is love.
When the fear subsides, the love arises.
When the love arises, trust returns.
When the trust returns,
magical things begin to happen that you could never have planned.

This is the journey From Fear To Love.

“I have come away from this experience a lot more in touch with how I feel and knowing that I just have to let go when I need to, and that it’s all okay.” L.C., AMSTERDAM

ABOUT PRICES AND BOOKING

The prices for this retreat are all-inclusive.  So for this retreat, that means full-board accommodation at The Hill That Breathes (scroll down for room details), and the full F**k It Be You course. The prices are in the panel below this.
Your 1st instalment is €590.

The retreat prices for ‘F**k It Family’ are for those who’ve been on a F**k It retreat or event before.

To book, it’s easy:
1. Just check availability of your desired room option using the button below.
2.  We’ll let you know by email if there’s space. If there is, we’ll then give you a link to the booking page.  You can then fill in our booking form and pay the 1st instalment of €590 online within 5 minutes (yes, we’ve timed it!).
3. You can sit back and look forward to your retreat.

Payment Timings in detail:

Generally you pay in three instalments (depending on when you book).
The 1st instalment of €590 secures your booking.
The 2nd instalment is due 2 months later or 2 months before the retreat, whichever is earlier.
The 3rd instalment, payable to the venue, is due 6 weeks before the retreat.

We will take you through the precise figures of the 2nd and 3rd instalments when we reply to your availability enquiry.

WHEN IT FEELS RIGHT,
SAY THE MAGIC WORDS (F**K IT)
AND SEE IF WE STILL HAVE SPACE -

I was deeply moved by Gaia. She seemed to know just how I felt, what my journey is.” 

 J.M., EDINBURGH

YOUR VENUE: THE HILL THAT BREATHES –

THE HILL THAT BREATHES YUM SHOW

A 100 ACRE WOODED HILL JUST FOR YOU NEAR URBINO

ABOUT THE HILL THAT BREATHES

“The Hill is a magical place.” The Observer
“Heartbreakingly lovely” The Guardian

HILL CAPTURE

The Hill That Breathes is a truly magical place.  (Disclaimer here: we are somewhat biased as we created The Hill back in 2004, though we no longer live there or run it.) When we first saw the long-abandoned property and woods on this vast hill we could feel the magic and sense of peace.  It always relaxed us there.  And over the time that we lived there and ran retreats, many miracles happened.  Including our realisation that the profanity ‘F**k It’ could be therapeutic. Now, The Hill is run (and inhabited by) the Dutch Marsi family (as ‘Villa Marsi’). They will look after you during your retreat – and Sandor (a great chef) will have you looking forward to meals.

The Hill That Breathes, then, is a 100 acre wooded hill.  There are two converted farmhouses, a variety of outhouses, a stunning panoramic pool that pops out from the deep woods and a platform for your sessions (or a large space inside one of the houses). The Hill has a few things that none of our other venues have: you, as a group, will have exclusive use of the space (and this space is vast and isolated, so that means complete freedom), and it is a wild place (you will most likely see deer in the woods and hear owls at night).

YUM GUEST-HOUSE

A CONVERTED FARM-HOUSE NESTLED IN THE WOODS

The Hill was voted ‘Europe’s Best Retreat’ a few years ago for good reason: it is the perfect place to retreat from your daily life, pause and refresh and become inspired again.

Even though The Hill is in a very isolated valley with very few neighbours, it’s still only 20 minutes from the awe-inspiring beauty and cultural significance of Urbino (and they have nice bars and geleterias too!).


Travelling to this venue (in brief):
We will give you (very) detailed instructions once you book (in your ‘holiday pack’), but, briefly…
We will invite you to a private Facebook group so that you can talk to other guests who are coming on the same week, and thus meet and share taxis, etc.. if you fancy.
Most of our guests fly to Bologna, as it has the most flight options (though Ancona is a little closer).  You would then take the train to Pesaro (1 to 2 hours depending on train).  And take (and usually, share) a taxi up to The Hill That Breathes (about 50 mins).
In other words, it’s all pretty straightforward (and rather exciting).

YUM URBINO

THE RENAISSANCE GEM IS CLOSE-BY (BIRTH-PLACE OF RAPHAEL)

The Scores on the Doors –

  • Sense of being a thousand miles from anywhere and your problems 97% 97%
  • Noisy neighbours 1% 1%
  • The space to reflect and to reconnect 93% 93%

 

The Rooms –

in SINGLE ROOM

There are only 5 single rooms available at The Hill, so it’s worth getting in early. The price is all-inclusive, so: Gaia’s teaching, the room and breakfast, lunch and dinner, all prepared by The Hill’s talented chef (and host), Sandor Marsi.

with SEMI-SINGLE SPACE

There are 5 rooms at The Hill, on the upper floor, with separate mezzanine floors.  So one person can sleep in the downstairs area, and one on the mezzanine, with, therefore, a degree of separation – and thus these spaces are ‘semi-single’.  These rooms have shared bathrooms too, all on the same floor, to further enable privacy. The price is all-inclusive, so: Gaia’s teaching, the room and breakfast, lunch and dinner, all prepared by The Hill’s talented chef (and host), Sandor Marsi.

with TWIN or DOUBLE SPACES

Many of our guests come to a retreat on their own, then share with another guest (of the same sex) in a ‘twin’ room (and these rooms may well be the same rooms as for ‘semi-single’ room, on the upper floor of the house). Those booking ‘double’ rooms come to a retreat with another person, and tend to know them rather well. The price is all-inclusive, so: Gaia’s teaching, the room and breakfast, lunch and dinner, all prepared by The Hill’s talented chef (and host), Sandor Marsi.

with TRIPLE SPACE

Many of our guests come to a retreat on their own, then share with others. In this triple room (likely to be a mezzanine room on the upper floor of the house, so see ‘semi-singles’ for details), you share with two others (of the same sex). You’re certain to make a bunch of new friends on a F**k It Retreat, and your ‘roomies’ in such a room tend to even more special. The price is all-inclusive, so: Gaia’s teaching, the room and breakfast, lunch and dinner, all prepared by The Hill’s talented chef (and host), Sandor Marsi.

WHEN IT FEELS RIGHT,
SAY THE MAGIC WORDS (F**K IT)
AND SEE IF WE STILL HAVE SPACE -

“Gaia is the most amazing human being I have ever met. Her insights allowed me to have my own journey which wouldn’t have been as special without her.” 

E.S., BRISTOL