F**K IT
BE YOU

HERE I AM

“DID WE ALL LEAVE FEELING FABULOUS? YES, ABSOLUTELY.” LONDON EVENING STANDARD

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SUMMARY OF RETREAT / WHY YOU’LL LOVE IT / ABOUT GAIA / ABOUT THIS RETREAT / ABOUT PRICES & BOOKING / ABOUT THE HILL THAT BREATHES

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F**K IT BE YOU “HERE I AM” RETREAT
AUGUST 20-27  / £1190-£1490
WEST LEXHAM

In a nutshell:

If you tend to put others first (and yourself last), it’s time to take a trip to the stunning pastoral oasis of West Lexham.

Yes, for the delight of this place, the wild swimming and evening around the bonfire, but mainly to explore how and why you’ve put yourself last, and how to say “Here I Am” and thus change the patterns of a lifetime.

For this beautiful and transforming work, you’ll be led by both Gaia Pollini and John C. Parkin (founders of the F**k It thing and authors of the books).

Prices are all-inclusive (full-board)

 

 

 

 

“I was, and continue to be, astounded at how strong I could be, just being me. Thank you Gaia.” M.T., ZURICH

Why you’ll love this retreat – 

LIBERATING TEACHING from GAIA & JOHN

You’ll feel better. 
And you’ll learn how to feel well and free every day –
Long after the holiday effect has faded.

SUPER-RELAXING HOLIDAY

This place is stunning. 
Whether you’re wandering by the river, wild swimming or lying back in a rowing boat, or having a nap under a tree, this is proper relaxing holiday.

GOOD COMPANY

People don’t expect this,
but you’ll feel safe and supported amongst new friends, 
who are likely to one day be old friends.

ABOUT GAIA & JOHN

Gaia & John developed the whole ‘F**k It’ thing in 2004.

First it took the form of the wildly successful and talked-about ‘F**k It Weeks’.
Then the first book ‘F**k It, the Ultimate Spiritual Way’ made a splash (and led to the whole F**k It series of books).

Since then, Gaia & John have shared F**k It in a variety of ways –
retreats, workshops, online courses, more books and even chocolate –
with millions of people around the world.

Gaia is a therapist with huge experience
having deep training in developmental trauma work (NARM), Somatic Experiencing, energy work, breathwork, voice dialogue and hypnotherapy. 
John makes you think, feel and, usually, laugh.

ABOUT THIS F**K IT BE YOU “HERE I AM” RETREAT


 

F**k It Be You.
F**k It Be You.
Not the people pleaser, the one who says ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’.
F**k It Be You. Not hiding your light and life-force, the one who says ‘no’ when you mean ‘yes’.
F**k It Be You. You as you are, not as you think you should be.
F**k It Be You. Doing what feels right, not what you think you should do.
F**k It Be You. Not always putting yourself last, not giving help when you need it yourself.
F**k It Be You. Listening to yourself and your feelings, not others and their opinions.
F**k It Be You. Including the vulnerable, tender and fragile you.
F**k It Be You. And don’t make any excuses for being you.

F**k It Be You.  

Gaia's 'F**k It Be You' work helps you return to the true, clear and fully-alive you.
It is based on her long therapeutic experience and training in practices such as 'NARM' and Somatic Experiencing which relate to Developmental Trauma and our unconscious repetitive patterns.

Fact.
Many of us wander through our lives without ever feeling how much we truly matter.
How much you (yes, you) actually count.
Really count.

(Hidden) Fact.
But these feelings are often unconscious.
On the surface, we take a role, maybe many roles and we do many things which are important (for others),
but in our hearts we don’t really feel we are important in ourselves.

(Unseen) Fact.
We don’t really see ourselves.
And we don’t really feel seen, truly seen.
As these feelings can be unconscious, it is helpful then to look beneath your ‘external role’ in the world,
as most of those who don’t feel they really matter become so good at mattering by becoming great helpers,
and indispensable to others.

(Helper) Fact.
You’re a helper –
At work, in your family, for your parents, children, friends, partners,
even for those you actually really don’t care about (or even dislike),
but never a helper to yourself…
Not really listening to your needs,
and never daring to say, “I am here”, “see me”, 
“this is what I need, and I am not going without it any more”.

Bell Fact?
Does this ring a bell?
If so, then it is worth exploring this work. As all of this can change.
Fortunately, this is just an acquired dynamic, a learnt and adapted behaviour (a pattern).

(True) Facts.
It is not true you are not important,
if you drop that helper role, it is not true you’ll end up unloved and alone.
Quite the opposite.
People may start to see YOU.

(Source) Facts.
This pattern is usually learnt early in life,
when we need to be cared for, nurtured and listened to in very specific ways,
in order that we learn to receive without doing anything ourselves.
When we don’t learn this (and most of us don’t), 
we then believe we have to ‘do’ in order to receive.
And that doesn’t work (and is very tiring).

“This was a perfect week with perfect people and perfect Gaia.
It was a life-changing experience.” 
E.M., BERLIN

On this retreat, Gaia & John will guide you through un-learning these patterns in order to realise that
“F**K IT, HERE I AM”.

  • You’ll learn how to listen in, and start noticing what you feel and what you want, and that it is totally okay and normal to have needs
  • You’ll work with the unconscious fears that keep us repeating the over-giving pattern (no-one will want you or love you if you stop doing it for everyone)
  • You’ll experience, in exercises and within the safe and heart-full relationships of the group, that reaching out and speaking up makes you seen and considered, not shameful and needy
  • You’ll reconnect to healthy aggression – the ability to feel and say what feels right for you in a healthy way
  • You’ll explore expressing your desires and receiving without ‘doing’ things for others

Reality.
This retreat is about turning something you thought you could only dream of into reality.
It’s likely that part of this dynamic is that you have learnt to make do with little,
or at least less than you’d like, less love than you’d like, less ease than you’d like,
fewer relationships that you’d like, less joy than you’d like.
Well, you’re in for some real abundance now.

Fact.

“I have come away from this experience a lot more in touch with how I feel and knowing that I just have to let go when I need to, and that it’s all okay.” L.C., AMSTERDAM

ABOUT PRICES AND BOOKING

The prices for this retreat are all-inclusive.  So that means full-board accommodation at The Hill That Breathes (scroll down for room details), and the full F**k It Be You course. The prices are in the panel below.
Your 1st instalment is £490.

To book, it’s easy:
1. Just click the button ‘Reserve your place now’, fill out the form and pay your £490 initial instalment (taking just a few minutes in total).
2.  We’ll confirm your booking and, along the way, send you full details for booking travel, paying the further instalments and even a list of what we suggest you bring on your retreat.
3. You sit back and look forward to your retreat.  Whatever’s going on in your life, there’s your retreat round the corner.

Payment Timings in detail:

Generally you pay in three instalments (depending on when you book).
The 1st instalment of £490 secures your booking.
The 2nd instalment is due 2 months later or 2 months before the retreat, whichever is earlier.
The 3rd instalment is due 6 weeks before the retreat.

We will take you through the precise figures and timings once you’ve booked (based on your accommodation option and the timing of your booking).

WHEN IT FEELS RIGHT,
SAY THE MAGIC WORDS (F**K IT)
AND RESERVE YOUR PLACE -

I was deeply moved by Gaia. She seemed to know just how I felt, what my journey is.” 

 J.M., EDINBURGH

YOUR VENUE:
WEST LEXHAM / NORFOLK / UK –

PREPARE TO BE AMAZED

THIS IS WEST LEXHAM.  IT’S ANOTHER WORLD. A VERITABLE ENGLISH IDYLL.

ABOUT WEST LEXHAM

 

It’s taken a long time to find a place like West Lexham in the U.K..
We’ve visited many places, researched many others, talked to owners and organizers.
But here we are – running our first week-long retreat in the English countryside…
And because we were wowed by West Lexham, the place and their team… it feels so right.

So let’s assume you’re joining us for a week of finding out how to be more you – 
in particular how to feel and declare to the world – “Here I Am”.

It’s August 21st:

You wake up to the sound of bird-song after a night of deep sleep in your gorgeous room. You head out for a little exploring before breakfast: you have a little walk by the river.
Back to breakfast, a delicious affair with new friends (you’ve already met the group the previous evening and are starting to feel some resonance already, some “ahh, you feel that too”).
Then you head into the main session area in the converted barn for your first session with Gaia & John.
You feel slightly nervous about the first session, but you’re soon feeling better with some of the gentle qigong (led by John on the lawn of the private garden by the barn).
You start to feel comfortable, and sit back to listen to Gaia exploring how we all ‘adapt’ as young ones to our environment, and in response to not being nurtured fully in the way we need.  Lots of bells ring.
You enjoy the easy, powerful exercises in small groups.  You get in touch with some deep feelings you weren’t expecting.
And, before you know it, you’re at lunch, and you’re hungry: fortunately, the food is local, seasonal, organic, healthy and… delicious.
After lunch, it’s time for a full-on wander around this large rural oasis, held by the flowing river.
It’s warm so you can’t resist your first taste of wild swimming in the lake (others have taken the more sedate option of one of the rowing boats).
After your dip, you wander in a relaxed trance round the enchanting gardens.
You hear others playing a game in the swimming pool.  Further along you hear the pinging of a tennis ball on racket on the court.
And you then find your own secluded spot, under an ancient tree, and you have a nap, looking forward to more delicious food for dinner and the prospect of gathering around the firebowl for the evening, looking up at the stars, and wondering whether someone will start a sing-a-along.

How about that for a first day at West Lexham? 
And you’ll have a whole week to find out more about yourself, the true you, to learn how to be more that true you, whilst exploring the wonders of West Lexham and the surroundings too if you fancy (with the seaside just half-an-hour away too).

WILD SWIMMING…

…TO SWIMMING LENGTHS

One of the reasons we chose this fabulous U.K. venue was that – for many of your Northern Europeans – it means you can reach the retreat by train or car.

So that means that – as we all start to make changes in the way we live given climate change – that you don’t have to fly.

Yes, if you prefer to attend one of our other retreats where you do have to fly, we are helping you offset the carbon cost of the flight.  But it’s a good idea to fly less if we can.

So, here’s how to get there – 


Travelling to this venue (in brief):

First off, we will invite you to a private Facebook group so that you can talk to other guests who are coming on the same week, and thus meet and share cars, or travel together by train or bus.  
We’ll give you more details of the journey after you’ve booked, but you can probably work out with the help of Google Maps and the address – 
West Lexham, King’s Lynn PE32 2QN

Idyllic Setting + Lovely Rooms + Delicious Food –

WHEN IT FEELS RIGHT,
SAY THE MAGIC WORDS (F**K IT)
AND RESERVE YOUR PLACE -

“Gaia is the most amazing human being I have ever met. Her insights allowed me to have my own journey which wouldn’t have been as special without her.” 

E.S., BRISTOL