F**K IT
BE YOU

“I MATTER”

“DID WE ALL LEAVE FEELING FABULOUS? YES, ABSOLUTELY.” LONDON EVENING STANDARD

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(Everything you need on one page)

SUMMARY OF RETREAT / WHY YOU’LL LOVE IT / ABOUT GAIA / ABOUT THIS RETREAT / ABOUT PRICES & BOOKING / ABOUT URBINO RESORT

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F**K IT BE YOU “I MATTER” RETREAT
APRIL 11-18 / €1390-€1890 
URBINO RESORT

 

In a nutshell:

If you tend to put others first (and yourself last), it’s time to take a trip to the luxurious estate & spa of Urbino Resort.

Yes, for the spa, but mainly to explore how and why you’ve put yourself last, and how to realise that “I matter” and thus change the patterns of a lifetime.

This beautiful, transforming work with Gaia Pollini (F**k It co-author and founder) includes her renowned and delicious hot water process (in the spa of course).

Prices are all-inclusive (full-board)

 

 

“I was, and continue to be, astounded at how strong I could be, just being me. Thank you Gaia.” M.T., ZURICH

Why you’ll love this retreat – 

LIBERATING TEACHING from GAIA

You’ll feel better. 
And you’ll learn how to feel well and free every day –
Long after the holiday effect has faded.

SUPER-RELAXING HOLIDAY

You’re in the lap of Italian luxury and comfort at the spa of Urbino Resort –
Close to the renaissance gem of Urbino (birthplace of Raphael).

GOOD COMPANY

People don’t expect this,
but you’ll feel safe and supported amongst new friends, 
who are likely to one day be old friends.

ABOUT MAGIC GAIA

Gaia is F**k It personified.
Just hanging out with Gaia takes you to a different place. Having created the whole F**k It thing (with John) 14 years ago,
Gaia IS F**k It.

And you can’t help but get it when you’re with her.
We use the word ‘magic’ around Gaia too because that’s how people describe her and her work. (And Gaia has A LOT of people following her from one place to another, doing one retreat after another).

Gaia is a therapist with huge experience - having deep training in developmental trauma work (NARM), Somatic Experiencing, energy work, breathwork, voice dialogue and hypnotherapy.  In her magic way, she creates space for true feelings, full life-force and personal truth. She brings to this process her work with trauma, with relational attachment and with energy, so that you have the chance to permanently shift self-limiting perceptions and beliefs and relax into a true sense of okayness.

  • Gaia’s magical ability to impart our true sense of okayness 100% 100%

“Gaia is a goddess: the most incredible person I’ve ever met.” O.H., LONDON

ABOUT THIS F**K IT BE YOU “I MATTER” RETREAT


 

F**k It Be You.
F**k It Be You.
Not the people pleaser, the one who says ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’.
F**k It Be You. Not hiding your light and life-force, the one who says ‘no’ when you mean ‘yes’.
F**k It Be You. You as you are, not as you think you should be.
F**k It Be You. Doing what feels right, not what you think you should do.
F**k It Be You. Not always putting yourself last, not giving help when you need it yourself.
F**k It Be You. Listening to yourself and your feelings, not others and their opinions.
F**k It Be You. Including the vulnerable, tender and fragile you.
F**k It Be You. And don’t make any excuses for being you.

F**k It Be You.  

Gaia's 'F**k It Be You' work helps you return to the true, clear and fully-alive you.
It is based on her long therapeutic experience and training in practices such as 'NARM' and Somatic Experiencing which relate to Developmental Trauma and our unconscious repetitive patterns.

Fact.
Many of us wander through our lives without ever feeling how much we truly matter.
How much you (yes, you) actually count.
Really count.

(Hidden) Fact.
But these feelings are often unconscious.
On the surface, we take a role, maybe many roles and we do many things which are important (for others),
but in our hearts we don’t really feel we are important in ourselves.

(Unseen) Fact.
We don’t really see ourselves.
And we don’t really feel seen, truly seen.
As these feelings can be unconscious, it is helpful then to look beneath your ‘external role’ in the world,
as most of those who don’t feel they really matter become so good at mattering by becoming great helpers,
and indispensable to others.

(Helper) Fact.
You’re a helper –
At work, in your family, for your parents, children, friends, partners,
even for those you actually really don’t care about (or even dislike),
but never a helper to yourself…
Not really listening to your needs,
and never daring to say, “I am here”, “see me”, 
“this is what I need, and I am not going without it any more”.

Bell Fact?
Does this ring a bell?
If so, then it is worth exploring this work. As all of this can change.
Fortunately, this is just an acquired dynamic, a learnt and adapted behaviour (a pattern).

(True) Facts.
It is not true you are not important,
if you drop that helper role, it is not true you’ll end up unloved and alone.
Quite the opposite.
People may start to see YOU.

(Source) Facts.
This pattern is usually learnt early in life,
when we need to be cared for, nurtured and listened to in very specific ways,
in order that we learn to receive without doing anything ourselves.
When we don’t learn this (and most of us don’t), 
we then believe we have to ‘do’ in order to receive.
And that doesn’t work (and is very tiring).

“This was a perfect week with perfect people and perfect Gaia.
It was a life-changing experience.” 
E.M., BERLIN

On this retreat, Gaia will guide you through un-learning these patterns in order to realise that
“F**K IT, I MATTER”.

  • You’ll learn how to listen in, and start noticing what you feel and what you want, and that it is totally okay and normal to have needs
  • You’ll work with the unconscious fears that keep us repeating the over-giving pattern (no-one will want you or love you if you stop doing it for everyone)
  • You’ll experience, in exercises and within the safe and heart-full relationships of the group, that reaching out and speaking up makes you seen and considered, not shameful and needy
  • You’ll reconnect to healthy aggression – the ability to feel and say what feels right for you in a healthy way
  • You’ll explore expressing your desires and receiving without ‘doing’ things for others
  • You’ll experience Gaia’s delicious hot water work.

Dream.
In the two amazing sessions in the warm water of the spa pool,
you’ll explore the ease of getting in touch with your feelings and needs,
and how people support you and see you so spontaneously,
you’ll start to believe it is truly okay to receive and that people can see you.


Reality.
This retreat is about turning something you thought you could only dream of into reality.
It’s likely that part of this dynamic is that you have learnt to make do with little,
or at least less than you’d like, less love than you’d like, less ease than you’d like,
fewer relationships that you’d like, less joy than you’d like.
Well, you’re in for some real abundance now.

Fact.

“I have come away from this experience a lot more in touch with how I feel and knowing that I just have to let go when I need to, and that it’s all okay.” L.C., AMSTERDAM

ABOUT PRICES AND BOOKING

The prices for this retreat are all-inclusive.  So for this retreat, that means full-board accommodation at Urbino Resort (scroll down for room details), and the full F**k It Be You course. The prices are in the panel below this.
Your 1st instalment is €590.

The retreat prices for ‘F**k It Family’ are for those who’ve been on a F**k It retreat or event before.

To book, it’s easy:
1. Just check availability of your desired room option using the button below.
2.  We’ll let you know by email if there’s space. If there is, we’ll then give you a link to the booking page.  You can then fill in our booking form and pay the 1st instalment of €590 online all within 5 minutes (yes, we’ve timed it!).
3. You can sit back and look forward to your retreat.

Payment Timings in detail:

Generally, you pay in three instalments (depending on when you book).
The 1st instalment of €590 secures your booking.
The 2nd instalment is due 2 months later or 2 months before the retreat, whichever is earlier.
The 3rd instalment, payable to the venue, is due 6 weeks before the retreat.

We will take you through the precise figures of the 2nd and 3rd instalments when we reply to your availability enquiry.

WHEN IT FEELS RIGHT,
SAY THE MAGIC WORDS (F**K IT)
AND SEE IF WE STILL HAVE SPACE -

I was deeply moved by Gaia. She seemed to know just how I felt, what my journey is.” 

 J.M., EDINBURGH

YOUR VENUE: URBINO RESORT –

URBINO RESORT YUM SHOW

A VAST LUXURIOUS ESTATE & SPA NEAR URBINO

ABOUT URBINO RESORT

 

 

“Urbino Resort is a beautifully converted cluster of rustic 18th-century farm buildings surrounded by vineyards, woodland and olive groves.” The London Evening Standard

Urbino Resort is a vast estate with it’s ‘borgo’ (small village) at the centre. You will sleep well in the luxurious, but never flashy, rooms.  You will enjoy your group sessions in the large and calm session room.  You will eat well in the stunning restaurant. You will relax well in the indoor pool and spa, or by the outdoor pool (with it’s accompanying bar).  You will walk well, in the apparently limitless grounds that run by the powerful river.  You will be treated well by the helpful and gentle staff. You will be able to absorb the renaissance culture (and aperitifs / ice cream) in Urbino.

YUM ROOMS

FROM LUXURY SUITES TO SHARING WITH OTHERS

Urbino Resort somehow manages to pull off a few difficult-to-achieve combinations:

  • It is luxurious without ever feeling haughty (like many luxurious places do)
  • It is vast whilst still feeling intimate
  • It is super-pristine, with staff everywhere, whilst still feeling rustic and real
  • It is popular, especially in the restaurant, but remains peaceful

Many guests come back year-after-year to their luxurious second-home near Urbino.


Travelling to this venue (in brief):
We will give you (very) detailed instructions once you book (in your ‘holiday pack’), but, briefly…
We will invite you to a private Facebook group so that you can talk to other guests who are coming on the same week, and thus meet and share taxis, etc..
Most of our guests fly to Bologna, as it has the most flight options (though Ancona is a little closer).  You would then take the train to Pesaro (1 to 2 hours depending on train).  And take (and usually, share) a taxi up to Urbino Resort (about 40 mins).
In other words, it’s all pretty straightforward (and rather exciting).

YUM POOLS

DELICIOUS OUTDOOR AND INDOOR POOLS

The Scores on the Doors –

  • Sense of peace on the estate 96% 96%
  • Bog-standard cuisine 3% 3%
  • Lap of luxury quotient 93% 93%

 

The Rooms –

in SINGLE SUITE

Oooohhh, if you really want to treat yourself, go for the suite.  It’s a single room plus.  And ‘plus’ means different things depending on the suite – maybe a lounge as well as your bedroom, maybe a delicious bath. The price is all-inclusive, so: Gaia’s teaching, the suite and breakfast, lunch and dinner.

in SINGLE ROOM

Most of our guests go for this option. And it’s a good one.  The resort has a range of delicious single rooms, depending on which building you’re staying in (there are four). The price is all-inclusive, so: Gaia’s teaching, the room and breakfast, lunch and dinner.

in DOUBLE SUITE

If you want a double room, and really want to treat yourselves, then go for the suite.  It’s a double room plus.  And ‘plus’ means different things depending on the suite – maybe a lounge as well as your bedroom, maybe a delicious bath. The price is all-inclusive, and per person, so: Gaia’s teaching, the room and breakfast, lunch and dinner.

with TWIN / DOUBLE SPACE

Many of our guests come to a retreat on their own, then share with another guest (of the same sex) in a ‘twin’ room. Those booking ‘double’ rooms come to a retreat with another person, and tend to know them rather well. The price is all-inclusive,  and per person, so: Gaia’s teaching, the room space and breakfast, lunch and dinner.

with TRIPLE SPACE

Many of our guests come to a retreat on their own, then share with others. In this triple room, you share with two others (of the same sex). You’re certain to make a bunch of new friends on a F**k It Retreat, and your ‘roomies’ in such a room tend to be even more special. The price is all-inclusive, so: Gaia’s teaching, the room space and breakfast, lunch and dinner.

WHEN IT FEELS RIGHT,
SAY THE MAGIC WORDS (F**K IT)
AND SEE IF WE STILL HAVE SPACE -

“Gaia is the most amazing human being I have ever met. Her insights allowed me to have my own journey which wouldn’t have been as special without her.” 

E.S., BRISTOL