F**K IT
BE YOU

in RELATIONSHIPS

“DID WE ALL LEAVE FEELING FABULOUS? YES, ABSOLUTELY.” LONDON EVENING STANDARD

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(Everything you need on one page)

SUMMARY OF RETREAT / WHY YOU’LL LOVE IT / ABOUT GAIA & JOHN / ABOUT THIS RETREAT / ABOUT PRICES & BOOKING / ABOUT THE HILL THAT BREATHES

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F**K IT BE YOU in RELATIONSHIPS RETREAT
OCTOBER 31 – NOVEMBER 7 / £1190 – £1490
THE HILL THAT BREATHES

In a nutshell:

Gaia & John have been asked how ‘F**k It’ works in relationships for many years. 
This retreat is their response – and they led it for the first time in November 2019.
It was an astonishing week.

So – how do you remain yourself in a deep relationship with another?

This retreat investigates how remaining ourselves, and being fully ourselves, is the only true way to be in a deep relationship, as it brings with it the allowing of the other to be fully themselves too.

Our intimate relationships are the frontline of our own growth and development – 
so when this area is sussed, much of life is sussed too.

You learn that ‘F**k It, I CAN be myself’
even in the deepest relationship with another.

Prices are all-inclusive (full-board)

“I was, and continue to be, astounded at how strong I could be, just being me. Thank you Gaia.” M.T., ZURICH

Why you’ll love this retreat – 

LIBERATING TEACHING from GAIA & JOHN

You’ll feel better. 
And you’ll learn how to feel well and free every day –
Long after the holiday effect has faded.

SUPER-RELAXING HOLIDAY

Nestled in the rolling hills near Urbino (birthplace of Raphael),
The Hill That Breathes is a 100 acre wooded hill with two converted farmhouses and panoramic pool. Yum.

GOOD COMPANY

People don’t expect this,
but you’ll feel safe and supported amongst new friends, 
who are likely to one day be old friends.

ABOUT GAIA & JOHN

Gaia & John developed the whole ‘F**k It’ thing in 2004.

First it took the form of the wildly successful and talked-about ‘F**k It Weeks’.
Then the first book ‘F**k It, the Ultimate Spiritual Way’ made a splash (and led to the whole F**k It series of books).

Since then, Gaia & John have shared F**k It in a variety of ways –
retreats, workshops, online courses, more books and even chocolate –
with millions of people around the world.

Gaia is a therapist with huge experience
having deep training in developmental trauma work (NARM), Somatic Experiencing, energy work, breathwork, voice dialogue and hypnotherapy. 
John makes you think, feel and, usually, laugh.

ABOUT THIS F**K IT BE YOU IN RELATIONSHIPS RETREAT


F**k It Be You.
F**k It Be You.
Not the people pleaser, the one who says ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’.
F**k It Be You. Not hiding your light and life-force, the one who says ‘no’ when you mean ‘yes’.
F**k It Be You. You as you are, not as you think you should be.
F**k It Be You. Doing what feels right, not what you think you should do.
F**k It Be You. Not always putting yourself last, not giving help when you need it yourself.
F**k It Be You. Listening to yourself and your feelings, not others and their opinions.
F**k It Be You. Including the vulnerable, tender and fragile you.
F**k It Be You. And don’t make any excuses for being you.

F**k It Be You.  

Gaia's 'F**k It Be You' work helps you return to the true, clear and fully-alive you.
It is based on her long therapeutic experience and training in practices such as 'NARM' and Somatic Experiencing which relate to Developmental Trauma and our unconscious repetitive patterns.

Saying ‘F**k It’ and learning how to be fully yourself in your life is a healing and liberating journey,
and one that Gaia takes people through in all her ‘F**k It Be You’ teaching.

But how does that journey work when you’re in a relationship with someone? 
How can you be more yourself, when you’re travelling on your journey alongside someone else?

We’ve been asked for years about how F**k It works in relationships.

So this is it.
How F**k It and Being Yourself works in relationships,
Led by Gaia and John.

And not for couples only –
And not for those in a current relationship only –
This is for anyone interested in how this can work in the romantic relationships in their life.

Are your curious?
Swipe down.

“This was a perfect week with perfect people and perfect Gaia.
It was a life-changing experience.” 
E.M., BERLIN

Primary relationships trigger each other’s survival mechanisms like nothing else.
After all, they were developed in primary relationships with your mother and father. 

So, if you learnt to be a dutiful helper in order to fit into your family,
this is likely to repeat itself in your romantic relationships.

If you were emotionless to cope with difficult parents,
this is likely to repeat with your partner when there are difficulties.

If you were always forced to do things that you didn’t want to do by those who were supposed to love and accept you,
you may well associate love with obligation, and try to run away from it, even when it isn’t.

So, as well as the trigger, a romantic relationship is also a big opportunity to move through your layers,
get back to your true self, express it and discover that true union is possible (or that the other person is not up for it).

The patterns that emerge in your relationship can be the invitation for you to both become more yourself, whilst becoming closer, together.

In a relationship, you need to have both a sense of self, and a healthy dependency –
you need to be able to lean on, trust and be vulnerable, but still have a sense of self as you –
So, both bits.

So, we will explore –

  • How we abandon ourselves in order to fit in with the other (in a similar way to how we did when we were young)
  • What the fears are that we hold that make us disconnect from what we actually feel and want to express (and that’s usually a fear of abandonment)
  • How it feels to be in touch with our own feelings and with the person at the same time (so it’s not an either / or)
  • What it is like to experience that the other person needs us as much as we need them, so neither is powerless or too powerful and what comes from that realisation
  • How being on your own, or fully controlling a relationship is actually a survival mechanism (protection from hurt), rather than what makes our hearts sing
  • How passion has no age but comes from deep self-love and self-respect which brings such a sense of aliveness that we can then express with another romantically

All these themes will reveal their goodies through the week and culminate in the ‘Self-Love Process’,
which is actually the highway to true love for another

Adam, Eve, Eve, Eve and Adam

 

“I have come away from this experience a lot more in touch with how I feel and knowing that I just have to let go when I need to, and that it’s all okay.” L.C., AMSTERDAM

ABOUT PRICES AND BOOKING

The prices for this retreat are all-inclusive.  So that means full-board accommodation at The Hill That Breathes (scroll down for room details), and the full F**k It Be You course. The prices are in the panel below.
Your 1st instalment is £490.

To book, it’s easy:
1. Just click the button ‘Reserve your place now’, fill out the form and pay your £490 initial instalment (taking just a few minutes in total).
2.  We’ll confirm your booking and, along the way, send you full details for booking travel, paying the further instalments and even a list of what we suggest you bring on your retreat.
3. You sit back and look forward to your retreat.  Whatever’s going on in your life, there’s your retreat round the corner.

Payment Timings in detail:

Generally you pay in three instalments (depending on when you book).
The 1st instalment of £490 secures your booking.
The 2nd instalment is due 2 months later or 2 months before the retreat, whichever is earlier.
The 3rd instalment is due 6 weeks before the retreat.

We will take you through the precise figures and timings once you’ve booked (based on your accommodation option and the timing of your booking).

WHEN IT FEELS RIGHT,
SAY THE MAGIC WORDS (F**K IT)
AND RESERVE YOUR PLACE -

I was deeply moved by Gaia. She seemed to know just how I felt, what my journey is.” 

 J.M., EDINBURGH

YOUR VENUE:
THE HILL THAT BREATHES –

THE HILL THAT BREATHES YUM SHOW

A 100 ACRE WOODED HILL JUST FOR YOU NEAR URBINO

ABOUT THE HILL THAT BREATHES

“The Hill is a magical place.” The Observer
“Heartbreakingly lovely” The Guardian

HILL CAPTURE

The Hill That Breathes is a truly magical place.  (Full disclosure here: we are somewhat biased as we created The Hill back in 2004, though we no longer live there or run it.) When we first saw the long-abandoned property and woods on this vast hill we could feel the magic and sense of peace.  It always relaxed us there.
And over the time that we lived there and ran retreats, many miracles happened.  Including our realisation that the profanity ‘F**k It’ could be therapeutic. Now, The Hill is run (and inhabited by) the Dutch Marsi family (and they call it ‘Villa Marsi’). They will look after you during your retreat – and Sandor (a great chef) will have you looking forward to meals.

The Hill That Breathes, then, is a 100 acre wooded hill.  There are two converted farmhouses, a variety of outhouses, a stunning panoramic pool that pops out from the deep woods and a platform for your sessions (or a large space inside one of the houses). The Hill has a few unique elements: you, as a group, will have exclusive use of the space (and this space is vast and isolated, so that means complete freedom), and it is a wild place (you will most likely see deer in the woods and hear owls at night).

YUM GUEST-HOUSE

A CONVERTED FARM-HOUSE NESTLED IN THE WOODS

The Hill was voted ‘Europe’s Best Retreat’ a few years ago for good reason: it is the perfect place to retreat from your daily life, pause and refresh and become inspired again.

Even though The Hill is in a very isolated valley with very few neighbours, it’s still only 20 minutes from the awe-inspiring beauty and cultural significance of Urbino (and they have nice bars and geleterias too!).


Travelling to this venue (in brief):
We will give you (very) detailed instructions once you book (in your ‘holiday pack’), but, briefly…
We will invite you to a private Facebook group so that you can talk to other guests who are coming on the same week, and thus meet and share taxis, etc.. if you fancy.
Most of our guests fly to Bologna, as it has the most flight options (though Ancona and Rimini are closer).  You would then take the train to Pesaro (1 to 2 hours depending on train).  And take (and usually, share) a taxi up to The Hill That Breathes (about 50 mins).
In other words, it’s all pretty straightforward (and rather exciting).

YUM URBINO

THE RENAISSANCE GEM IS CLOSE-BY (BIRTH-PLACE OF RAPHAEL)

The Rooms –

in a SINGLE ROOM

There are only 5 single rooms available at The Hill, so it’s worth getting in early. The price is all-inclusive, so: Gaia’s teaching, the room and breakfast, lunch and dinner, all prepared by The Hill’s talented chef (and host), Sandor Marsi.

with SEMI-SINGLE SPACE

There are 5 rooms at The Hill (on the top floor) with separate mezzanine floors.  So one person can sleep in the downstairs area, and one on the mezzanine, with, therefore, a degree of separation – and thus these spaces are ‘semi-single’.  The top floor mezzanine rooms share three bathrooms. The price is all-inclusive, so: Gaia’s teaching, the room and breakfast, lunch and dinner, all prepared by The Hill’s talented chef (and host), Sandor Marsi.

with TWIN or DOUBLE SPACES

Many of our guests come to a retreat on their own, then share with another guest (of the same sex) in a ‘twin’ room. Those booking ‘double’ rooms come to a retreat with another person, and tend to know them rather well. These twin / double rooms may be downstairs at The Hill, or upstairs in one of the large mezzanine rooms (which share three bathrooms). The price is all-inclusive, so: Gaia’s teaching, the room and breakfast, lunch and dinner, all prepared by The Hill’s talented chef (and host), Sandor Marsi.

WHEN IT FEELS RIGHT,
SAY THE MAGIC WORDS (F**K IT)
AND RESERVE YOUR PLACE -

“Gaia is the most amazing human being I have ever met. Her insights allowed me to have my own journey which wouldn’t have been as special without her.” 

E.S., BRISTOL